The Key to a Great Marriage

Don’t just seek the Spirit’s influence in your own life; also look for a mate who is living in that same influence.

You already know that Christians are not supposed to marry unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14-15). But that’s just a minimal standard. [Read more…]

Help Is on the Way

We’ve got some bad news for you. After encouraging you to be ready for God’s best, it is our sad duty to inform you that you are incapable of getting yourself ready for God’s best in marriage—or in any other area of your life, for that matter. You just can’t do it. You don’t have it in you. Sorry.

We really mean it; you’re incapable of this. And so are we. And so is everybody else you’re going to meet today. But there is Someone who is capable of making you ready for God’s best, as you cooperate with this particular Someone. We’re talking about the Holy Spirit. [Read more…]

What Does It Mean to Be the Right Person?

That’s the key, isn’t it? If we’re saying that being ready to meet the right person depends on being the right person, what does that really consist of? Here’s our definition: Being the right person means living out God’s purpose for your life.

This is where being a follower of Christ is so radically different from being an unbeliever. The world says, “Be your own man (or woman). Live life your way. Decide what you want and go for it.” Is that what God wants from us? [Read more…]

Dealing with Disappointment

Dealing with DisappointmentHow did you picture the future when you were six, 10 or 14 years old?  It’s a good bet that that picture looks very little like your life today.   As we mature and our talents and interests grow and change, we realize that many of our former goals and desires have moved to the background or out of the picture altogether.  It’s easy to look back and laugh at how unrealistic or even silly some of them were.

But when it comes to a dream of marriage, you may be not laughing.   [Read more…]