Feeling Confused?

God knows the way.

Loving Too Much?

by Fern Horst

Browsing through the “Love & Relationship” section of a local bookstore, one can find such titles as Women Who Love Too Much, When Parents Love Too Much, and even, For People Who Love Their Cats Too Much. We could easily conclude that it is a grave danger to love too much.

Yet, when we turn to the Bible we realize that Jesus calls us to love others as He has loved us (John 13:34), and to love even to the point of dying for those we love (John 15:13). (read more)

Find Encouragement . . .

Feeling confused about your situation? Maybe you’re just not sure how to relate in this sometimes crazy and chaotic dating world? Maybe you’re just wondering why you haven’t found anyone yet or why nothing seems to be happening for you? Is God still moving in this area of your life?

Wait! Stop everything! While it is very easy to fall into this trap of doubt, remember it is just that, a trap. God is not the God of chaos or confusion. He brings clarity and confirmation to all our situations, if we trust in and rely on Him.

So what do you do? First, don’t trust your own feelings of confusion in this area. Lean on God and His Word for clarity and trust that He’s right all the time.

Just as confusion is fed by doubt, so clarity is fed by conviction and belief. Use the verses below to help redirect your thought-life and focus on the clarity that God wants us all to have. We don’t get to know the future, but we are blessed with promise after promise from His Word about our life. What happens next is up to Him, but trust that He hears you, He sees you, and He knows your heart.

I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you and watch over you. (Psalm 32:8, NIV)

I will lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things I will do; I will not forsake them. (Isaiah 42:16, NIV)

In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight. (Proverbs 3:6, NIV)

For this God is our God for ever and ever; he will be our guide even to the end. (Psalm 48:14, NIV)

Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.” (Isaiah 30:21, NIV)

In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps. (Proverbs 16:9, NIV)

Yet I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand. You guide me with your counsel, and afterwards you will take me into glory. (Psalm 73:23-24, NIV)

Your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast. (Psalm 139:10, NIV)

If the LORD delights in a man’s way, he makes his steps firm. (Psalm 37:23, NIV)

His God instructs him and teaches him the right way. (Isaiah 28:26, NIV)


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